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F reshly made pasta is drying on the wooden bannisters lining the hall of a beautiful home in Denver, Colorado. Fox-hunting photos decorate the walls in a room full of books. A fire is burning. And downstairs, a group of liberal white women have gathered around a long wooden table to admit how racist they are.
This is a human, just doing their thing. Why do I think that? This is Race to Dinner. A white woman volunteers to host a dinner in her home for seven other white women — often strangers, perhaps acquaintances. A frank discussion is led by co-founders Regina Jackson, who is black, and Saira Rao, who identifies as Indian American. They started Race to Dinner to challenge liberal white women to accept their racism, however subconscious.
Rao and Jackson believe white, liberal women are the most receptive audience because they are open to changing their behavior.
White men, they feel, are similarly a lost cause. White women, on the other hand, are uniquely placed to challenge racism because of their proximity to power and wealth, Jackson says. But Jackson and Rao have hardly been able to take a break since they started these dinners in the spring of So far, 15 dinners have been held in big cities across the US.
They are well-read and well-meaning. They are mostly Democrats.
Some have adopted black children, many have partners who are people of color, some have been doing work towards inclusivity and diversity for decades. But they acknowledge they also have unchecked biases. Campbell-Swanson comes across as an overly keen college student applying for a prestigious internship. She can go on for days about her work as a political consultant, but when it comes to talking about racism, she chokes.
Not because I want to be … a white savior. Across from Campbell-Swanson, Morgan Richards admits she recently did nothing when someone patronizingly commended her for adopting her two black children, as though she had saved them. We have to get comfortable with that to become part of the solution. Carbonara is heaped on to plates, and a sense of self-righteousness seems to wash over the eight white women. The mood becomes tense.
But you strike me as being really in your head. It was during this campaign Rao met Jackson, who works in real estate. Rao is done with affability. The friend invited other guests, Rao reluctantly agreed, then hated that second dinner, too. But then white women began flooding her inbox asking her to do it again. But it left her looking less like a human and more like some kind of real-life trolling bot. Women at the dinners were always crying.
Some of those dinners got out of hand — attendees have tried to place their hands on Jackson and Rao, and racial slurs have been thrown around. Susan Brown attended one of those earlier dinners. She says she felt like Rao and Jackson were angry at her the whole time, without ever learning why. She found Rao needlessly provocative and mean-spirited, unaware of her own class privilege, and divisive.
She felt the dinner set her up to fail. Another attendee, who did not want to be named, says she found Rao to be dogmatic, and presented a distorted depiction of history, leaving out facts that do not fit her narrative. But even for those who complained, something has changed. Brown read White Fragility — a book released last year that posits every person partakes to some degree in racism and needs to confront that — and realized many of the things she was commending herself for needed to be re-evaluated.
The book is now ased reading for women before they can attend a dinner.
The woman who compared Rao to Trump went to a city council meeting to speak up about the death of a young black man in her area. In recent months, Jackson and Rao changed the model. That meant asking the women to speak up. To own their racism. It meant getting them to do the required reading, as well as follow-up discussions, where they decide how to do better anti-racist work.
Lisa Bond, who was hired because Rao and Jackson thought there would be instances when participants would feel more comfortable expressing their feelings to another white woman, says this will help her see how unmonitored thoughts can lead to systemic racism. What is in her power, she says, is forcing herself to talk to her sister, who did vote for Trump, even when it gets difficult. She emphasizes this work has to continue, no matter who is president.
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