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T he stereotypes about bad girls, in my experience, are mostly true. In high school, all my bad girl compatriots came from broken homes, and current research seems to bear out that girls from broken homes start having sex earlier than girls whose parents stay together. All I know is my own experience as a bad girl who had bad girl friends. Only we wanted to hook up because we liked having sex, not because we had something to prove.
She was petite and blond, funny and smart. Damn smart. Still is. They dated her because she was hot and she liked sex. Older as in maybe twenty-five. He had his own trailer and everything. Sometimes she left school to go spend afternoons with him. Once, we ditched school together and she took me to meet him. No, we did not have a threesome. Walter, I think his name was. A lot of the time, to be brutally honest, most of us just wanted to hook up, just like the guys did. A couple of big-league sluts.
We sluts, when we find each other, have a special bond. The talking, not the having.
She was having sex for the sake of having sex. I, on the other hand, was most definitely looking for love. My home life was dark and dystopian and seriously lacking in warmth. I have exactly zero memories of being comforted as. In between the fighting and mind games, occasionally my dad would pat me on the shoulder, and sometimes Mom would hug me, but when she did, it never felt as though the hugs were for me — somehow, they were always for her.
Not really. But the reason was obvious: My emotional need was mammoth. Dudes could smell my desperation a mile away, and they exploited it mercilessly in order to get laid. I was happy to have sex with them. I stayed friends with a few, but not many. The ones I did stay friends with were the guys who were brave enough to not give a shit what people said about me or them.
High school is hard on most of us. All the bad girls I knew were vigilant about birth control. But that was our fault, as we were told ad-nauseum. I wanted love. And I wanted to knock boots. And I wanted respect, despite the fact I liked to knock boots. So why did liking sex seem to elicit so much disrespect? What is the crime in a woman enjoying sex? A crime so unforgivable that the punishment is to fuck her and discard her like a used Kleenex? And the open degradation! Why insult someone who is willing to bring you so much pleasure and joy?
I will never understand it. How might the world be different if women who enjoy sex were called sex goddesses? Or penis pixies? Or just … Amazing? What would be so wrong about that? To be completely truthful, I sort of enjoyed having a reputation in high school. It made me a rebel, in a way, and since I thought it was bullshit I was being shamed, I simply rejected the notion I had anything to be ashamed for, and I let it roll off my back. But twenty years later, at my high school reunion, there were still guys willing to remind me of my promiscuous past, as though it was still something novel and dirty to be made fun of, all these years later.
As if female sexuality is a joke. And you know what? Back then, though, I was sure things would change, as far as attitudes toward female sexuality goes. I was sure that someday, when I was a grownup, women and girls would no longer be shamed for liking sex. I hoped sexual harassment would be a thing of the past and rapes would be taken seriously. Which is complete and utter bullshit. Nothing a woman does with her body — and nothing about her appearance — has any bearing on her value as a person.
Neither does the of sex partners she has, nor her enthusiasm for satisfying sex. Bad Girls are people too.
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Chapter 1. Bad Girls, Dirty Bodies